How you can have more charisma…
What makes a successful consultant or manager or coach or trainer etc?.
Having worked with one or two charismatic individuals recently, I was preparing a tip on how you can have more charisma when John La Valle at the Society ofNLP sent me the following list.
The reason that I'm sharing it with you now is that the answer to"What makes a successful consultant?" and "How do I have more charisma?" are virtually the same.
The dominant characteristic of successful and charismatic individuals is clarity of purpose and strength of self belief that comes from being certain about who they are and what they are going after.
As you read through the list below consider what you could do to become more like this (and thereby increase your charisma).
The question I've been asked is, “What makes a successful consultant?” Well, I've taken this question and expanded it sideways to include trainer, teacher, manager, etc. and expanded it upwards to include entrepreneur, etc. because to me, whatever it is you’re doing professionally, it helps to put yourself in the position, or role, of consultant at certain times, places and other contexts.
Based on my experience with many different people across many different professions, the ones that are the most successful have or do the following things:
- They are driven - not just ambitious - driven by their passions, their abilities, their purpose. They know themselves so well that they do not need to explain themselves to others. Their behaviour says it all.
- They are infectious - their above permeates a room, permeates all they meet, their environment. Some will this charisma, others energy. Whatever you it, know what it is because you have not only experienced it, but have it.
- They are passionate about whatever it is they do, truly passionate. Even when they have the opportunity to “sell” something. They don’t have to because their passion spills over onto the people listening and/or in their presence. And most people want to have success.
- They know the following that I have been saying for years and years - “No one is good at everything, but everyone is good at something”. They know what they are good at, and they have built on that. They know what they are not good at and pass it up, or pass it along to someone else, when those opportunities come by. They know their niche and have developed their own “expertise” of it.
- They are not afraid of hard work - as a matter of fact, it’s not they are not afraid of it, they don’t equate it with their passion - to them it’s not work, it’s their life; it’s what they love doing. For years I've told people: “Do what you love and you’ll never work another day in your life.” And at the same time, working 24/7 is part of it for them. This does not mean that they don’t make time away from their “career”, but there is always that one small wheel clicking away in the back of their mind that keeps them on track.
- They know that making mistakes is part of making decisions. They don’t expect perfection, but they do expect optimisation. At the same time, they also have high expectations for themselves, and for others, but they understand how to balance all these towards success.
- They know how to say “I don’t know” with confidence.
- They are continuously learning - not just from seminars, books, tapes, etc., but from the experiences they are having. They are acute observers of their environment and can calibrate interventions well and the results of those interventions, whether theirs or someone else’s, regardless of how subtle.
- They have solid morals and values and their behaviour is consistent. They do not waiver. They may change their minds, but only after very careful consideration of new information.
- They keep things simple - their communication, their strategies, everything possible is kept simple, but not at the expense of wasting resources, more appropriately, they keep things precise.
- They are honest and they understand dishonesty and are prepared for it. They have a healthy skepticism of the business environment in which they are operating and have the strategies to evaluate opportunities.
How many of the above do you honestly have and/or do?
Happy Consulting, or whatever it is you do.
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I wonder what your reaction to this list was - if you found yourself thinking “I could do that, that’s me…” and you’re thinking of launching your own business then do take a look at my Be Your Own Boss pages.