Do you wish that you could figure out what you REALLY wanted?

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From: Andrew Halfacre
Re: About Seven Ways To Figure Out What You Want™

Seven Ways To Figure Out What You Want™ does exactly what the name describes. It is a workbook and ecourse that gives you seven very different ways to figure out what you really want in all areas of your life.

Why should I invest in Seven Ways To Figure Out What You Want™?

Most people, most of the time, do not know what they really want and because of this they live a life that they know is not as good as it could be. Many people go through life with a perpetual low level nagging feeling that they should be doing something else, if only they could figure out what they really wanted.

Is this you? Have you ever said or thought I know that I want to do something different with my life or in one part of my life, if only I could figure out what I really wanted. If I knew clearly, I'd make changes.

So why don't we know what we want?

I think there are three reasons...

1. Lack of practice

Often we don't know what we want because we simply don't practice. From school we are trained to come into a room, sit down and take input from the teacher. At work we learn that to get paid it's a good idea to generally do as we're told. Outside work, unless we are careful we naturally fall into doing whatever our peer group do. Parenthood comes along with an avalanche of busyness and life begins to accelerate by. It's shocking how little time we spend listening to ourselves or our gut feelings, getting clear on what we want.

2. Negative reinforcement

Imagine a young child exploring a big garden for the first time. He sees a wall and fearlessly climbs up and begins to walk along the top. He is fine, enjoying himself and focused on the experience. Until that is, his mum spots him out of the window. Get down. she shouts You'll fall, it's not safe. He looks down and realises that he could fall, it's not safe, he doesn't want that and get's down. Weren't you scared? mum asks. He realises that he should have been scared so he gets scared.

Look at the quality of the experience. Out of love his parents continually reinforce the negative, what you don't want, what is wrong. Don't cross the road, don't make a risky decision, don't skip your homework The reinforcement is strong, emotional and repeated. Is it any wonder that we learn to pay attention only to what we don't want or are afraid of?

3. Fear and overwhelm

We are afraid to dream out of a fear of being disappointed. We can also be scared that if we admitted to ourselves what we really wanted then we might grow dissatisfied with work or our relationship and we are afraid of what that might mean. We are overwhelmed too with a deluge of information much of it trying to sell us on some idea or purchase that would make our life better. It's easier just to screen it all out or make the easy decisions and just settle.

If fear has stopped you from knowing what you truly want then understand that it is an illusion. Clarity brings peace and, yes, it might mean making changes but you are in charge of those changes. The most generous thing you can do for your family, work, friends and your world is to find your niche, the place where you 'fit' best of all where you can make the best contribution and have the most fun doing it.

The other thing to remember is that until you pay attention to that little nagging voice inside you it will never leave you alone. Either you pay attention and spend some time working it out or you live with a certain niggling low level anxiety. Either way you're going to pay, you might as well pay with attention...

What exactly do I get?

• A chance to practice figuring out what you want using exercises that are so different, at least one will be a perfect fit with your learning style.
• Positive reinforcement, your chance to reverse what might be years of focus on what you don't want or are afraid of. Now you have a chance to change your focus and surprise yourself.
• A structured system for figuring out what you want. I'll hold your hand and start you off gently so that you build up your decision making muscles. It's so good I offer a very strong guarantee (see below).

You get:

• A 60 page self study workbook written in a very practical and accessible style.
• 7 different exercises you can work through at your own pace.
• A completely different approach to learning, you'll find yourself doing it naturally.
• An additional 7 part ecourse that delivers extra content and reminders to help your progress.
• A copy of the slides I use for a Seven Ways seminar.
• My personal email address for additional support.

What are the benefits of using these exercises?

Imagine knowing in any situation exactly what you wanted. You can already notice how this would speed up your decision making and there is an even more important benefit.

Remember, most people, most of the time do not really know what they want. When we meet someone who is clear we often call them charismatic and it's generally true that the people who don't know what they want end up following the people who do know that they want.

Once you know what you want and are better at figuring this out more quickly, you will notice that your decisiveness is attractive to other people. At work, many people will be relived that someone else has figured it out so they can fall in behind them. In your relationships being clear about what your want and able to communicate it is a great gift. As a parent you will be able to help your children understand where they "fit" best. (and all of this makes shopping a whole lot easier!)

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